Hi Adam,
I replied publicly because your questions were sent to the mailing list. I'd have been happy to reply in private if so asked.
I started to write up a much longer reply, but I'm tired - we've long since been going in circles. I feel like I've written down answers to almost all your questions before, including some in the email above.
Still, there are a few new ones. Let me work through them now.
Yes, I am on the bitcoin-security list. I have always been on it. I have taken part in many threads there and started one or two myself. I guess you're not though, otherwise you'd know that. You can ask, I'm sure Gavin will add you if you like.
Re: BIP. Gavin is working on a BIP to go along with his patch. I hope that will satisfy. I do not expect the resulting discussion to differ much from the discussion so far, though.
Re: summit. No, I would not attend. I have been to several Bitcoin conferences over the years where the block size issue was discussed. No progress was ever made at these events.
Re: if some flaw or bug was found in the patch. Yes, of course if there was some specific problem with the code then we would fix it. There will be time to review Gavin's patches for these reasons.
Re: anyone who agrees with noted non-programmers Mike&Gavin must be non-technical, stupid, uninformed, etc .... OK, go ahead and show them the error of their ways. Anyone can write blogs.